@ncscswitch:
Actually, you give NO thought to getting back together. Otherwise you DON’T heal… you just sit around nursing an open festering wound. You have to honestly LET GO, and then you heal :-).
Also, for future contact, you do NOT treat them as a queen. You treat her civilly, with respect and courtesy, like you would any other human being. If you treat her like a queen, that simply reinforces your open festering wound, and give her all the benefits of your previous relationship that she might want, with no commitment and no obligation.
From the sounds of it, you REALLY need to come to grips with it being over, and that it is almost certainly over permanently…
Actually, I didn’t want to say this, and I’m definitely no expert in the ways of love, but I have felt at times like this is exactly what applies to me as well. Thanks switch, it sounds like very good advice, for Jermo and for me. All I’ll say, and this is to add to switch’s advice, is that my ex has come to me several times since the breakup, basically seeking to be involved in my life in some way or another. The other day, she approached me and offered to buy me and my roommate a few drinks, to say “Thank you for helping me get my car to the shop to get fixed.” When I told my roommate about it, his answer was about the same as mine - Simply saying “Thank You” was enough, and he also said that if he were to accept such an invitation, it wouldn’t be from her. My point is, I have no intention of letting this girl back in my life, and the more she pushes it, the more disconnected I’m gonna become. If she asks me why, or what the problem is, then I’d let her know that I DID treat her like a queen, but since that apparently meant nothing to her, then she deserves to get cut off. I already have, and it seems she doesn’t get it. Maybe I should be a bit more of an a$$hole… :-P