I am glad he didn’t let you win; I am firmly against that. For a win to be treasured it has to be earned. Nothing given freely is appreciated.
My second oldest brother started teaching me to play basketball when I was about 13 years old. He was a PE teacher and really great. He was unfortunately short, slow and couldn’t jump but I tell you honestly he had the skills of any pro basketball player and thus played way over his talent level. He taught me all the basic skills and we would play one on one sometimes while waiting for everyone to show up to play “real” games.
At first he gave me a handicap where he would only shoot outside the paint. He still beat me 21-0 most of the time. I remember getting even one point and being happy. Over time I was able to get more and more points, 3-4 then 5-6 and then 8-10. After that he started shooting inside the paint but no layups. The same scenario happened where he cleaned my clock but I started scoring more and more and making it more difficult for him.
After a few years, about when I was 17, we started playing even up - no handicaps. He would beat me handily; like 21-5. But as the months went by I got better and better and I remember with pride getting into the low teens. Eventually the games became close. I would get 15-18 points but couldn’t get over the hump. Then the epic battles where we would be 20-20 and have to go to overtime. Man did he push hard when I had a chance to win!!!
Finally, when I was 19, I finally beat him. A close game we went 24-22 me. It was one of the greatest days of my life. For years he had owned me and finally I had beaten him. I was so proud. For a few years he still won more than he lost but as he got older and I was in my prime, mid-20s, I started beating him more than he beat me. Father Time is cruel to everyone.
I can’t imagine if he had ever been easy on me and let me win. The happiness and joy and pride I experienced was only because I had worked so hard and put so much effort into it and was finally legitimately rewarded. That is what life is, the same effort and dedication, and sports are a great tool for teaching someone all the important concepts of life.
Again CONGRATULATIONS!